Remembering My Mom

Loren Kantor
6 min readDec 16, 2022
My mom dressed as an alien for the tv show Alien Nation.

When I was six years old, my mom gave me an important lesson. She was on carpool duty when she dropped off Lawrence Fishman at his home. He didn’t say thank you. She became furious. She told me, “I don’t want you to be friends with that boy. If someone doesn’t say thank you, you don’t want him in your life.”

My mom always offered little gems like that. She once said, “You’re born into a birth family but you spend the rest of your life searching for your earth family. If you’re lucky, the two are the same.” Another time she said, “Only spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. If somebody makes you feel lousy, stay away from them.”

My mom was quirky and opinionated and never hesitated to speak her mind. She loved to stir things up. When I was in high school, she became a Chocolatier with a twist. She hired a sculptor to make a mold of a penis and used it to make chocolate schlongs. She called her company Lick-a-Prick and filled the refrigerator with edible phalluses. Friends were always surprised when rummaging through our fridge for something to eat.

My mom was playful and loved to laugh. During her childhood speech to me about avoiding strangers she said, “If someone you don’t know offers candy to get in their car, don’t do it….unless it’s chocolate.” She followed this with a mischievous laugh and bright smile revealing her youthful spirit.

My mom had many jobs. She was a Sunday school teacher, camp counselor, cocktail waitress, notary public, chauffeur, unemployment official, caterer, truck driver and hairdresser. She assisted my father in film production then launched her own career in movies and television as a production coordinator. She worked several seasons on the shows Alien Nation, My So-Called Life and CSI. She worked with Quentin Tarantino on his first film Reservoir Dogs. He called her “my movie mom.”

She loved the music of Dory Previn and Barbra Streisand. She was a voracious reader and wrote poetry. She wrote a screenplay about the life of Chubby Checker. She was interested in psychology and spoke often of becoming a therapist. She was a member of a nudist camp.

She loved being a mother. She embraced the role of teacher, protector, cheerleader. She was always in my corner. When I struck out in little league to cost our team a…

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Loren Kantor

Loren is a writer and woodcut artist based in Los Angeles. He teaches printmaking and creative writing to kids and adults.